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Issue Date: April 5, 2013 |
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| CommonUnity Values: DeStressing |
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| Stress: We
all have it; we can't get rid of it; we all feel it; and we are
clueless what to do about it – but we'd better learn. DeStressing is
the productive solution. |
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Don't you wonder?
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You're not the only one stressed these
days. Stress is destroying our world.
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also Wondered:
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- What is stress?
- How do we get
rid of stress?
- Why does stress
seem neverending?
- What is the
stress response?
- What stops the
stress cycle?
- What does it
take to resolve stress?
- How do we
resolve stress?
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Stress is life's way to reveal to us how the personal perceptions we
hold are in conflict with reality.
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The SocioEnergetics
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is a 501(c)(3) not-for-profit
educational organization
sharing Life Wisdom
for the business of living
in the Peace of CommonUnity.
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~ Amrit Desai
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Essential Truth of the Month:
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What Truth does
this speak to you?
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What is SocioEnergetics?
SocioEnergetics is a contemporary way to explain
Life as we know it.
Uniting science, philosophy,
psychology, and spirituality, SocioEnergetics explores how contemporary
physical and social interactions evolve from and into the ultimate
essential CommonUnity.
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SocioEnergetics unites the search
for our essence of being.
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guiding principle of SocioEnergetics is to expand the Infinite
Potential through Learning, Growth, increased Knowledge, and the
pursuit of new Possibility. |
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Meaningless rote repetition in
school fails to stimulate the conscious connections that build inner
values. Without buy-in to the learning, the synaptic ties don't connect
to our inmost self; we grow up conflicted, without any sense of who we
are at heart. The inner disconnect leaves us vulnerable to stress.
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| We all have stress. |
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Stress is the general adaptation of the body to
what is happening around us and within us. There is no way to avoid the
internal changes made by chemicals released into the blood as we go
through our days. Whatever happens – good as well as bad – changes the
way our bodies need to adjust to the incoming stimuli.
As part of our physiological heritage, we're
equipped with enzymes, hormones, neurotransmitters, and other chemicals
that release when triggered by sensory observations of our changing
world. We notice some external input or internal alteration, and our
blood and nerves carry the message throughout our physical systems.
Hans Selye, a Canadian endocrinologist (1907-1982)
researching in the 1930s, adapted the physics and engineering term
stress to refer to the effect of physical and psychological forces
acting on the body.
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Cognitive
dissonanace is DIStressing.
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| Tension
is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are. |
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Chinese Proverb
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Learned opinions that
violate our inmost values create suppressed inner conflict; when
challenged by opposing points of view, the conflict surfaces and causes
stress. The more fiercely we have learned to hold the opinion, the more
we fear the threat of confrontation. The stress response leaps to fight
or flight, inhibiting conscious consideration of facts.
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| We all have stress. |
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Stress is the general adaptation of the body to
what is happening around us and within us. There is no way to avoid the
internal changes made by chemicals released into the blood as we go
through our days. Whatever happens – good as well as bad – changes the
way our bodies need to adjust to the incoming stimuli.
As part of our physiological heritage, we're
equipped with enzymes, hormones, neurotransmitters, and other chemicals
that release when triggered by sensory observations of our changing
world. We notice some external input or internal alteration, and our
blood and nerves carry the message throughout our physical systems.
Hans Selye, a Canadian endocrinologist (1907-1982)
researching in the 1930s, adapted the physics and engineering term
stress to refer to the effect of physical and psychological forces
acting on the body.
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We all feel stress.
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get rid of stress. |
Our genetic legacy incorporates the most
effective patterns of response to commonly experienced stressors:
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Stress is a birthright
from the wilds of our ancestral past. Primitive people often had to run
from overwhelming predators or stand to make the kill, and those who
reacted quickest lived to pass on their sensible genes. Those who
didn't adapt quickly to the changes around and within didn't survive,
so over time, the best patterns of response dominated the genetic code
incorporated by the evolving body.
As a result, we've inherited internal
systems that make the surviving behaviors that prod us to physical
reaction automatic. Typically, we don't even notice minor prods but
just shift to catch or avoid the breeze, shade our eyes against the
sun, or move to stand in the sunspot for warmth. When more overwhelming
stimuli bombard our senses, more emphatic reactive patterns are
triggered, and our bodies prepare for fight or flight.
We're the heirs of a long legacy of
practice. Our bodies have been built to notice the threats to our
survival and automatically react. The stress response is in our DNA.
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| Stress is the
combination of inner forces that prods us to respond to outer changes.
Without stress, we'd have no inclination to adapt. We wouldn't make the
corrections that make life easier and more enjoyable. We wouldn't avoid
life's problems or know what to do when one was unavoidable. We
wouldn't pay attention to life's dangers or do everything necessary to
prevail.
The problem, though, is that our bodies don't know
the difference between physical stress and psychological stress.
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We've become clueless what to do about stress. We
can't survive without stress, but it turns out: we can't live with too
much either. As long as stress served its biological fight or flight
purpose, there was no such thing as too much stress, but as we
socialized away from the reactive mode, the build up of stress has
become a trap as toxic as a tarpit.
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We'd better learn to destress.
The biological imperative that
configures inner forces into stress is purpose driven, triggering our
necessary and appropriate adaptive adjustment to life's inevitable
changes. Corrective action releases the forces constructively and has
survival value. To chronically inhibit the survival forces
short-circuits the fight or flight release; repetitive internal
resistance recycles the forces into an overstressing spiral that, like
proliferating carcinoma, becomes self-destructive. Without correction,
health, even survival is endangered.
Since it would take millennia
for biological overstress adaptations to evolve (while the stress
intolerant genes become extinct), people must learn immediately
effective destressing techniques on their own.
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In the normal course of life's ups and
downs, we all release stress neurotransmitters.
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Stress is a physical
buildup. Release it with regular exercise.
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Stress is psychologically
reinforced. Reduce it with relaxation.
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Stress has a purpose:
to energize us to deal with life's changes. Use it to effectively adapt.
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Okay, adapting effectively may be a
challenge, but when we don't destress effectively, we overstress.
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Living CommonUnity
recombines the best of science, religion, philosophy, and healing into
powerful transformative, energy-based, deity-free guidance for creating
the life you want!
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| SocioEnergetics
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RefleXion |
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To use the
internal stress resources effectively to focus on productive conflict
resolution, situational improvement, and self-fullfillment.
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The formula for
stress is to hold things in (often characterized as holding it all
"together") until the situation blows up into moments of overwhelming
urgency. |
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Stress
The body's biological
imperative to seek change for the benefit of the being. Characterized
by disrupted energy caused by internal, external, or situational
conflict, stress signals that a healing opportunity is available. When
the response is productive, the conflict is resolved; otherwise
distress diverts energy from wanted choices to unfullfilling ones.
DIStress
Divisive stress; energy drain. When we focus our energy on someone
else’s choices or on something we don’t want, even if it is to resist
that focus, we send a part of our energy reserves to the unwanted
thing, draining our available energy without any return support or
benefit accrual, leaving some of our physical, mental, emotional,
and/or spiritually essential needs unfullfilled. Any such deficiency
results in accompanying physical, mental, and/or emotional symptoms
which become more noticeable as the level of energy deficiency becomes
more pronounced.
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The more we focus
our unproductive conflict resolution inward in order to shut down
consideration of unacceptable possibilities raised by the situation,
the more we constrain our own energy. Active resistance to the reality
of the situation causes us to create inner conflict. Directing energy
to conform with a socially acceptable interpretation or expectation
instead of the real problem builds inner turmoil that recycles into
escalating internal pressure. |
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Stress
is the trash of modern life.
We all generate it but if you
don't dispose of it properly, it will pile up and overtake your life.
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~ Danzae
Pace
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A stressed world cannot become
better.
Fight or flight requires no conscious
effort but is an automatic protective reaction. In times of stress, we
withdraw into protection; growth shuts down, both figuratively and
literally.
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| Stress
is an ally. |
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the enemy. Stress is the body's way of telling us when something is
interfering with what we need for a healthy, happy life. To ignore or
subvert that internal intelligence is self-defeating.
Only when we realize that our own internal forces
are the ones working for our personal benefit can we acknowledge that
social rules are designed for the convenience and strengthening of
powerful outside forces. To sabotage our inner forces is like working
for the enemy; overstress is traitorous betrayal. Destressing takes the
resources at hand and uses them to our own benefit.
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- Recognize
stress as a signal. It tells you when life is not
working in your best interests.
- Don't
tolerate stress. Stress evolved for a reason; ignoring
stress obstructs the benefits and turns potential inner resources into
self-sabotaging threats.
- Learn
from stress. Change is the way of the world. Stress is
our internal resource that facilitates necessary change. By learning
from the body's stress that something is interfering with life's
easiest course and then using the stress resources to make the needed
corrections, we make progress toward the life we actually want at heart.
- Constructively
use the energy built up by stress. Prepare yourself to
deal with the stressors: become physically fit; learn new skillsets;
gather the resources and support you need.
- Manage
stress before overstress becomes its own threat.
Working off the stress at low levels to maintain health and safety
through prompt corrective action improves life and conserves resources
for growth.
- Decrease distress.
Change is necessary when good things happen as well as when threats
occur. Stress signals the need for both types of change. By managing
life to continuously direct your choices in the direction of what you
want, opportunities for intentionally planned good change increases,
and the debilitating stress that deals with fears and uncertainty
diminish.
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Effectively used, internal Stress resources focus
on productive conflict resolution, situational improvement, and
self-fullfillment.
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Stress: The
confusion created when one's mind overrides the body's basic desire to
choke the living daylights out of some jerk who desperately deserves it
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| Reality is
the leading cause of stress for those in touch with it. |
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| We are socialized to
NOT deal with the necessary adaptive adjustments in life: we defer to
the boss; we deny relationship problems; we stuff anger and other
emotions until they come out sideways at "safe" people. When we feel
helpless to act in our own best interest, we fail to release the stress
buildup in effective ways that correct the situation. This recycles
useful stress into overstress, and the stress energy is hijacked into
physical symptoms, emotional reactions, inappropriate behaviors, mood
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- Overstress over-releases
stimulating hormones like adrenaline. Notice the gut-clenching rush of
the release (diverting digestion energy into fight or flight) to help
identify the trigger, and then develop an effective strategy to correct
the cause (why you feel helpless) rather than the symptom (usually
anger or anxiety). Get help if you cannot do this alone.
- Overstress depletes
mood-managing and sleep-regulating serotonin. Instead of flying off the
handle or worrying all night, take time regularly to identity issues
and develop baby-step action plans to change the situation. Get help if
you cannot do this alone.
- Overstress disrupts sleep.
Sleep on a regular schedule; avoid alcohol, which further disrupts the
sleep cycle. Learn relaxation techniques and practice regularly.
- Overstress creates carb
cravings. Balance nutrition with regular meals containing plenty of
protein, fruits, and vegetables; avoid junk food and empty calories.
Consult a dietician if you cannot do this alone.
- Overstress hijacks useful
energy into intensified nervous stimulation. Deal with the sources of
conflict to release the buildup: find a support group; go to
counselling; improve relationships; change jobs if necessary.
- Overstress takes a toll on
the body and mind. Exercise regularly; eat healthy meals; avoid
addictive substances and behaviors; sleep regularly; take time off from
working to play and relax; see a health practitioner for acute symptoms
and follow prescribed regimens for recovery and management; get out of
your rut and do/learn something new.
- Overstress worsens feelings
of helplessness, often leading to clinical depression, chronic anxiety,
addictive disorders, and other psychological manifestations. Find a
support group; go to counselling; take care of yourself with proper
nutrition, exercise, and relaxation; develop baby-step action plans to
change the underlying situation.
- Overstress increases
"cognitive dissonance" – the gap between what we do and what we think.
Be true to yourself; find a support group; go to counselling; develop
baby-step action plans to change the underlying situation.
The list is starting to repeat
itself because the most important thing to do to avoid overstress is to
acknowledge who you are at heart and honor your real needs.
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